Hacked Game to Propose to Girlfriend

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In some cultures and sub-cultures it is considered appropriate to pop the question early to show enthusiasm and energy, not to mention courage. I am of the mindset that you should really, REALLY know the person and have talked about the possibility of marriage before actually popping the question officially. Even then it can blow up in your face, but the odds come way down if you really know and love the person and are sure they love you too.

I don't agree with the whole "grand gesture" school of proposals. It makes for good movies and books but can have some pretty brutal consequences in the real world.

 

Sad really. Lacks the social skills to do it in person, so has a computer ask for him.

It's kind of like the guy who proposes by having the question appear on the stadium scoreboard.

Weak.

 

I believe in the school of common sense. Big gesture is usually not warranted. Sometimes, however, it is warranted. It is then that it should be done. Sometimes it is a good thing to attempt to make a memorable moment.

Women like the show of energy and courage, as you undoubtedly have noticed. This is partly good and partly bad. Personally, I don't like certain aspects of it. Ever felt bad about fighting for the enjoyment of those who don't fight? Lawyers also know that feeling, although from a different angle. It shows with women.

 

I agree, but the moment does not have to involve a grandiose gesture for it to be memorable. I proposed to my wife while we were at a tree farm, looking for a Christmas tree. ("Hey, I found the perfect tree over here!") It was a rather mundane activity, but I don't think either of us will forget the moment.

 

I'm going with both here. I believe that you should definitely have been talking about it and have both considered it for a while but I still think that when the gesture comes it should at least be memorable. Not "grand" per se but thought out at least.

Or you could go with Chris O'Donnel's killer proposal from "The Bachelor".

"This is it. Sh*t or get off the pot"

 

Personally, I'm not so sure if you should have been talking for a longer while before proposing. On the one hand, it does seem reasonable. Choices need to be made reasonably. On the other hand, sometimes proposals come relatively out of the blue (as far as the timing goes rather than the person proposing) and sometimes they come out of what would otherwise be considered a friendship. In those situations it may well be better than talking for a long period of time about the arrangements to be made.

For instance, imagine two people nearing their thirties. They've been friends for a longer while and there have been no romantic excesses. They just know they can depend on each other and there's been a little crush that hasn't found expression. Discussing the issue doesn't really make much point - it may be preferable for the man to make the proposal and for the woman to consider it when it comes. Sometimes actions speak louder than words.

If I were hypothetically to propose to a good friend, I would do just that, on condition that I were convinced (as opposed to "maybe we should"). Note that this is true mostly of people who don't do the whole boyfriend-girlfriend thing, don't date etc. That is actually a reasonable way in so far as a short period of going out isn't able to make you know you're making the right choice. At the same time romance is not necessary to get to know the person, or even fall in love for that matter, while keeping it friends doesn't close you to other options too early or impose pressure strong enough to make you make choice you otherwise wouldn't make. A good example would be a co-worker, a person fighting for the same cause, someone you meet daily etc.