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Help.

I've been going out with this girl since saturday (Dr Love strikes again) but she WILL NOT SPEAK TO ME!!

I phone her up and I'm the one doing all the talking. Anyone who knows me will tell you I can talk about anything for ages.Literally. I need good conversation topics, and this is where you guys come in.

Suggest to me random things i can say that may inspire conversation from her

 

Did you use the wrong option on her? you might of- wait, is this a REAL LIFE girlfriend? *faints*

 

No lasting relationship will work if only one speaks. So find a way to make her talk or break up. How could you make her talk?

Interests, family, ask her about roleplaying , music. The future and vacations are always great. heh.

Just don't force her to speak. She will think "stop stalking me". ohhh. Are you stalking her?

[This message has been edited by ArchAngel (edited November 21, 2001).]

 

Talk about hockey, BG, breast sizes, website design...It works in the chat!

 

maybe you are phoning her too much! give her some space, if you start crouding her after only going out for a few days, she is gonna think you are some major possesive nutter, and will just stop things, be slick, be cool, wait for her to ring you. and if you call and she is washing her hair.. she may well be, people are always calling me when i am washing my hair - takes about 20 mins - so just chill

 

Just call her and ask her how her day was. She starts telling about her day and if she starts telling about something you like to do too, you have an immediate conversations. Other questions you ask anyone else are also good, like 'Have you heard about...?", "Did you see ... on tv too?", but not "Nice weather, isn't it?"

 

Thanx guys but I KNOW I'm not phoning her too much or being possessive - twice in the last three days is OK I think (well it worked with the others ).

 

For God's sake...

Gash, stop phoning her already! Set a date, get her somewhere "an eye to an eye", and all truths will be revealed.
Errrrr, not all, but at least the truth about how talkative she in fact is. The rest of truths (or should I say: details) you can't see over the phone, can you?

 

Gash, it may just be me but I absolutely detest talking on the phone, when I get together with girls it's usually one of the first things I tell them. I tell them not to expect too much of a conversation on the phone, if they wanna tell me anything then they either have to meet me in person, do it through sms or talk on the net, but I just can't talk on the phone. She might be the same.
Ask her out, go to the cinema or whatever, it's much easier to talk in person, but that's just what I find.

 

Me too. I might be a girl but that doesn't mean I like talking on the phone. Net suits me best. And if you want to get her talking, ask her how was her day and stuff. Just make sure you don't poke at her too much.

 

he's poking at her already? my god! the youth of today...

 

Hmm, if i was you and if my girl was your girl, i'd just ask basic stuff like hows your day on the phone, text messages etc. and then ask her the qestion of "wold you like to go out to the movies some time" or something like that ... its been said i know but heck! this is what i would do...

 

Talk about horses and shopping and makeup....

 

Why bother talk about horses? I'd have thought that make-up, trinkits and clothes would have done... and try to pay attention to the interests you have in common...

 

Gash----I would definetly just call and ask her to go out again. When you take her out---you might want to ask her where she would like to go or what she would like to do. If she answers you on the where or the what, then you should automatically have something to talk about once you get there, cause you will know at least one of her interests.

I know this is might be hard---but don't be afraid not to talk and just let silence fill the space. It isn't always a bad thing.

But, whatever you do, don't just assume she likes the regular "girly" type things, cause she may not!!!! And don't make her feel like she has to talk to you, because then she may feel trapped and want out. She open up to you in her own way, just give her time.

 

..thanx for the advice guys but she dumped me this morning. She said it twas too long distance.

 

She dumped you because it was long distance? how long to be exact?

 

That girl rhymes with itch. I've known my share too. Too "long distance"? GAWDS! What'll they come up with next? Well, at least you didn't spend much yet since you just went out last sat right?

 

*gets back up*. The girls will start complaining about the size of your nails next. "tsk, 1mm to large. DUMPED!". at least you can get a date...

 

Whatever Gash.

First take some time (a minute or two of course) to say her goodbye inside yourself.

Second, just say: NEXT!