Infidelity

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She was probably just upset that she had been carded before she was let in.

 

Nobody ever wants to check your ID if you're in a wheelchair, whenever I walk into a place I always get checked though Maybe a set of wheels adds years to your appearance.

If people are stupid enough to ask "How old do you think I am?" "How do I look?" as pick ups rather than sincerely then it's purely an excersize in creativity in your part followed by a rigorous bout of speed training.

 

Well yeah - that's what I said - that you cannot get into such a situation accidentally. So it would be a conscious decision. I don't think I'd ever do that. But here's why I don't know if I'd tell her if I did. I consider infidelity worse than lying. So... if I was willing to do the first, then lying to get out of it would seem like small potatoes by comparison.

The correct answer to that question (at least from my experience) is "at least 21".

 

That's an easy one. If you're not interested, always add 20 yrs. The look you get will be priceless. If you're interested, the proper response should be" How about I buy you another drink."

 

Nope. My girl is a puncher.

 

Hopefully she takes her rings off first.

 

What about un-committed persons who had affairs with people they know are committed. I know a lady who got pregnant by a man she knows was already engaged. Good thing for her was that the guy broke the engagement and married her instead. Basically, she stole him from someone. And she's not the only woman I know who stole a man from another woman.

 

There isn't a man that was "stolen" who didn't want to be....

Same goes for women, they don't just get "stolen" either.

 

T2B, I guess you've never heard of "shotgun weddings" or "arranged marriages".

 

In Western society at least, we don't have many arranged marriages or shotgun weddings. I would also opine that many shotgun marriages don't tend to last in today's Western cultures. Now in the Middle East and India, probably Its a different story.

 

Those aren't "stolen". And someone having an affair to "violate the prenuptual contract" is an active participant -- as I said, no one is "stolen" that doesn't want to be.

On a related note, we actually arranged have turret one guns on the Missouri lowered during a wedding ceremony. The groom was standing in front of the muzzle of the center gun (16" diameter bore) -- it was the biggest shotgun wedding in history.

 

Was she deliberately trying to get pregnant in order to compel the guy to switch to her? That's a risky move these days, as there's no guarantee that anybody will do the 'right thing.' People often exit extramarital/extra-committed-relationship affairs with the same recklessness and lack of consideration with which they entered them.

I'm not so sure about that, at least in the context of unplanned pregnancies. A guy might be up for a fling with little consideration, but that doesn't mean he's ready to invest fully if nature runs its course. Guys like that often find themselves in situations where they're not necessarily complicit. This may not meet the definition of theft (stealing the guy), so to speak, but the guy doesn't necessarily want the outcome either. All he may have wanted was some action on the side, not a new child and the demise of his marriage/engagement/what-have-you.

 

"Hey, I didn't wanna say anything, but now that you brought it up..."

 

"... no, your thighs make you look fat. That just looks like a tent covering them."

You only get to say that once though.

 

You steal a thing. Or you steal someone who hasn't the strength to escape you (kidnapping). People with moral agency (the ability to choose their actions and take responsibility for the consequences that arise therefrom) cannot be "stolen" in this context.

For example, I am married to a wonderful woman named Samantha. Now, let's indulge a fantasy and say that some beautiful 20 year old woman with a figure of 44DD/22/32 comes up to me and says "LKD, I'm here for the one and only purpose of making your life wonderful. I'll screw your socks off on a nightly basis, and I'm open to 3, 4 or even 10 ways. I'm rich, and you'll never have to work again -- we'll spend our entire lives travelling all around the world. I'm also an accomplished gourmet chef and will cook a different meal for you every night of our lives together. You'l have 8 sports cars, a yacht, your own private Lear jet, and a credit card that never sends bills. Plus a Wii! Come with me, LKD, and experience bliss that lasts forever!"

Now, questioning her taste is not the purpose of this post, so all of you shut up! My point is that if I choose to go with her, I have made a choice. I made it. No one forced me, and this chick didn't drug me. It is a weak willed, pathetic man (or woman) who says "Oh, I had no choice in the matter!"

And as for the person being left, it is totally lacking in logic for her to say "she STOLE my husband." That puts the blame on her and leaves me with a pass on accepting responsibility for my own actions. I understand that people in love don't want to face the possibility of their honey-bun choosing to bail, and so they lay the blame on the interloper, but IMHO it's just as weak-willed and pathetic.

Reminds me of the song "Jolene" by Dolly Parton (speaking of huge plots of land!) wherein she sings:

The first time I heard that song I was thinking "holy crap, Dolly, why do you WANT someone who so clearly wants to be with someone else? Have some self respect, woman!"

 

I wouldn't say that when you're deeply in love you don't see faults in the other person. I can very happily point out the faults in Kev (and myself ) and still love him truly despite and because of them.

If a relationship is in a stage where you're somehow convinced the other person does not have any faults, then to me that speaks more on either the other person isn't all that well known or the person not seeing faults has had reason to convince themselves the faults don't exist - either as a personal issue or denial of some sort.

Admittedly I have had issue with home-wrecking-hussies but never from a '***** stole my man' perspective. It *does* take two to screw up, and that's a minimum number.