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Wow ... I hard to believe a mother would do this....

 

Hard to tell if this is really hate or simply some kind of bigoted world-view.
Tasteless non the less.

 

Nasal vowel sounds. I've lived with autistic children and an autistic uncle.

Lack of empathy more than hate looks like, apparently the writer didn't even take the time to think through her "suggestions". And she's supposedly a mother too. That makes it worse, think of the damage she could be doing to her own children.

 

Don't know about the local laws but in the UK I don't think any prosecutor would have a problem arguing that this breaks the malicious communications act.

 

Holy crap, that takes a pair of brass to deliver that type of message. Can you say Bee-otch! That was a whole lot of pent up frustration coming out. She probably needs to get laid.

 

NO!!!!!! IT JUST GETS THE MESSAGE ACROSS MORE BETTERLY!!!!!!!!!

 

Devil's advocate here -- yes this writer is a coward and exceedlingly cruel. But how does one get legitimate concerns across to these people? Say ANYTHING and you are told that you need to "be more compassionate and understanding." Well, everyone has limits. Perhaps the noises this kid makes are truly disruptive, and having them occur on a regular basis is more than some in the neighbourhood can take.

I get that the others in the neighbourhood need to stop and consider the situation of the family dealing with the autistic kid, but on the flip side, the family needs to show some consideration for the others in the neighbourhood. They are likely not the only ones dealing with difficult situations.

I guess my bottom line is that having a "differently abled" child is not a license to be inconsiderate to your neighbours, no matter how much we want to deify those dealing with such an extreme trial.

 

Those are considered to be good things, generally speaking, rather than being ugly and stupid, like the person who wrote that mess.....

 

As you saw in my post, I was not referring to the crap that coward wrote, but rather to people trying to have an adult conversation with some of the parents of these differently abled kids. Instead of listening to reasonable, politely articulated concerns that ask for some consideration, those being decent enough to address the matter civilly are met with shrill platitudes and "poor me" complaining, not to mention accusations of bigotry.

In order for societal interactions to function smoothly and fairly, BOTH sides need to listen to and show respect for the other side. I have seen some of these parents in my time who are just bats**t crazy and clearly have no concern about anyone but themselves. They expect people to bend over backwards for them but won't lift a finger to to anything for anyone else.

Being a parent of a differently abled kid does not mean you are always right or that other people don't have any rights. There have to be limits and concessions made by everyone.

 

LKD: Just read through the posts on this thread. Many were "understanding" of our situation and I would like to thank them for that understanding, AND I mean that as a parent of such a child of which you have so much to say.

You are ignorant of what it is like for many of these parents. If they ask for a little more understanding, it is because they learn to give so much of it, just to able to cope. You really don't know.and your comments demonstrate that.

Sometimes it is better to just be "polite and reasonable" and not sound like, well....like that woman....

 

I sympathize more with the grandmother.

Taking on a kid with special needs may involve more than asking society for more sympathy. I'm not a parent (yet I hope) but I expect there are even more things that have to be done if or when someone becomes a parent for a special needs child.

 

Oy. I have an autistic son. A few years ago an elderly man loudly make several incredibly rude comments about my son, and about my parenting abilities, when we were at a restaurant. Upset and embarrassed, my wife started to escort my son out of the restaurant. As she left, I let the man know that I was sorry that my son's noise had disturbed his dining experience. I let him know that my son was autistic, and so he really didn't know any better. I asked him what his excuse was. He didn't have an answer, but was wise enough to keep his mouth shut when I brought my wife and son back in to finish their dinner. The man's dining companions were mortified, incidentally.

By the way, you need to be more compassionate and understanding. Show that forum post to one of the autism resource instructors at your school and ask what they have to say about it. Assuming the teacher doesn't deck you on principle, you'll get quite an earful. If you listen, you may even learn something about what you can and cannot reasonably expect to make happen with an autistic child.

 

I have had past experience with dealing with special needs, these are vunerable people who need our help and support, I flag them up when they come into the club early and make sure the staff know to keep an eye on them, even in a room with 200 people in it, we know where they are and make sure their night goes witout any problems from less empathic people.

 

I know very well what differently abled children are or are not capable of doing or understanding. The parents have a responsibility to take that into account when dealing with the outside world.

We had a similar thread a while back. I'm not stupid nor lacking in compassion. I just believe that the parents of such kids need to understand that although their child is the centre of the universe to them, the child does not occupy that position in the minds of others. Yes, the child has rights, but so do other people just trying to live their lives as well. I advocate respectful dialogue between all cognizant parties involved, NOT anonymous letters as was in this thread.

 

...then perhaps you chose an unfortunate time to play devil's advocate, since doing so implied that you felt that a parent of a mentally handicapped is stepping outside of what is reasonable when allowing said child to play in his/her own back yard. Interjecting that point in this thread, in this context, was neither sensitive, compassionate, or relevant to this situation.

This thread was about a very specific response a bigoted adult who should know better had to a very specific set of circumstances. Your complaint isn't really applicable. There are lots of parents who fail to give their children adequate limits, or who ask for unreasonable accommodations at forums not equipped to provide them. If you want to complain about such a parent making such a request, then you should be specific. Otherwise, you're just being *****y.

 

This rant is so general, it's meanlngless. We all have some sort of "responsibilities" to someone, even you do, I'm sure. Obviously the parents of this woman in question failed their responsibilities to raise her with a degree of understanding, or even common sense, for that matter. So, they turned that stupid woman loose on the rest of the world. But that's life in the free world, isn't it?

I guess you just can't get away from annoying people, even when they are supposed to be "normal." Personally, I find it much easier to be tolerant and understanding of all kinds of children, rather than I do some annoying adults, who really should know far better.