Popularity?

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How populare are you at school/work?

I myself have about 10 friends at school and get bullyed by almost everyone else. I don't know why i get bullyed, i just do. I tend to attract morons who just can't seem to keep their thoughts to themselves. Even happens online too, but i won't mention any names. What about you?

 

Bleh, I don't try to be popular, but most people seem to like me. Evil-doers hate me, of course.

 

I've not been able to make any friends yet on my new school but I get along alright with all I meet. And if any of them tries to bully me he'd better how to fight 'cause I don't take such things lightly.

 

I'm definitly not popular

I was bullied in my first three schools

The school I'm in now Teensaber and Frostbite are my friends, generally people just tolerate me

In first school I had two friends, my second first school The whole school hated me for no reason, third school I had one friend (who was my friend in first first school and was my friend while I was at second first school and still is now) and finally the secondary school I have two friends, as mentioned before, though my friend from first first school (BlackCat) has been my friend forever

So generally the whole world hates me

 

Hmmm.... I don't think the problem you have Z, is to be 'Popular', but to be 'Accepted'. There is an incredibly difference between the two, and I think as you get older you will realise there is no 'popular' and 'unpopular'.

I happen to get kicked here and there as I walk round, with the odd stone thrown at me, although I wouldn't concider myself 'unpopular'. I have a great group of best friends, consisting of my best mate Fay, and around 10 other people. Isn't that more important than being 'Popular'?

And if you look at it, isn't it the 'Popular' people who get ****ty grades, who smoke, who pick on others and don't know who their real friends are?
My ex-g/f happens to be considered 'popular', although she's more akin to me than 'those' people... and frankly, I couldn't care less.

So lose the whole 'I want to be popular' theory, because to be honest... you don't. And this you will realise later in school life, as people become more relaxed about it.

[EDIT] I dug up this just now; this Poem/Thing. Just read it....

"*Popularity*"

That word
I dread It
Despise It
I loath It

As I meet a Girl
Online one night
Exchange Names
Exchange Details

Conversation builds up
It's on the horizon
That 'Dreaded' question
The word I *despise*

As she asks If I'm POPULAR
Confusion builds up in my Mind
What's the Answer, don't ask ME?
Please get me a Dictionary

If being friends with the Local B*tch
Or hanging out with mindless Tw@ts
Is what it's ALL about...
Then I don't want to even be

HELP me please I'm confused I say!
The word IS simple *Stupidity*
People may; Halucinate.
and proceed to; Discriminate.
But to me this 'POPULARITY'
Is a myth made for Self Certainty

If those that are concerned Like Me
Come 2 UR Senses!
Follow Me
If I want 'Popularity'
Then take my *Personality*

I'd follow the words
Follow the Lies
Believe through other,
people's eyes.

It's a Sign of *Insecurity*
And judgemental *Authority*
You judge, you laugh, pick and Choose,
As if we are a pair of Shoes.

Halucinate
Officiate
Pretend we are;
clonesclonesclonesclones
Of SiMiLaRiTy
I'll talk NO MORE
I'll care NO MORE
I'll simply walk away
ONCE MORE...

[ September 10, 2002, 16:20: Message edited by: Gopher ]

 

If you really must know, yes, I am "popular" and I get along with everyone, because it seems people like a shy, quiet girl like myself. If popularity is about people who can't get good grades, who smoke, do drugs, push people around, then I'm definitely unpopular.

 

Life isn't about being POPULAR, it's about getting to where you want to be. Anyone who cares so much about being popular, being with the "in" crowd and doing certain things only because the crowd likes it, they're a sheep! A mindless moron who follows the stream of fashion and pop culture.

If being popular is defined as wearing those $200 sneakers, wearing only the biggest named clothes, and listening to the biggest music of the times, count me out thank-you-very-much.

All anyone needs is a few close friends and a few mess-about friends, we don't need everyone in the whole school to merely accept us because we conform.

Anyone who cares so much that they would base their own lifestyle around the lifestyle of a million other teenagers doesn't deserve to live, they offer nothing to society, nothing to mankind, they do nothing but hinder the world.

 

What's popular?

Is it fitting in with the people who are rich, act cool, and exert pressure on everyone else? That's not me. On the other hand, those kinds of people have been despised so much that there are other trends in my schools that are not labeled popular, but more and more people are seen doing it. Some dye hair in bright colors. Some only wear black. Some wear chains. Some get their ears pierced 50 times. No one will ever call it popular, but it catches on, and some people think it's different, but when a good fraction of the school (or otherwise a large group of diverse people) do it, can you really call yourself an individual by wearing a Slayer T-Shirt and dyeing your hair green nowadays? There are too many trends and fads these days, it's hard to understand what's popular and what's not. Getting the "in" crowd and becoming truly popular, whatever that means might be hard, and it's not worth it. Friends should be friends regardless if you start dressing in black, or start listening to Marilyn Manson, begin carrying a Bible everywhere, or start wearing $200 sneakers. Otherwise, no thank you, you're not a friend; you're just a person who labels people as "cool" by what they do and wear, not what they are.

Me, I just stand in the background. But that doesn't mean I don't speak out.

[ September 09, 2002, 02:23: Message edited by: C'Jakob ]

 

I used to be spat upon and shouted at wherever I went. But that wasn't anything to do with who I am, it was the fact that the ones doing the spitting and shouting has nothing better to do than to find the one who is different. They've all gone off to obscurity now, thankfully, and I am accepted by everyone. Not necessarily popular, as I prefer to keep most people at a distance, but tolerated. I don't care what the majority of people think of me. The only reputation I have with my peers is as a martial artist, and that gets me by well enough.

 

The 'popular' people are usually the w@nkers who go around bullying people. Been popular with your friends is cool, but been popular for no other reason than you do things that everyone else does is just crap

 

Popularity is overrated and as many of you get older you will realise that a lot of what you may have wanted before, and envied, is what you will really hate. Don't go out of your way to be popular or fit in, (I know its been said again and again) but just be true to yourself.

 

Well I'm not really popular at school but everybody seems to like me.Bullied? Well once some stupid fat guy tried to bully me(He was a grade lower than me). I beat him up and got into a heluva lot of truble! He tried it again last year but I just reminded him of last year and he backed of. Hmmm I wouldnt call myself popular. I'm weird and I think weird and everyone talks to me halps me but I am only popular cause I'm the only person in the school who speaks fluent English! I really hate Cyprus abd I dont really like having too many friends. So I have three. But I am not POPULAR!

 

Well.
In my old school I was quite "popular".
When I was a kid I was very shy and people didn't really notice me and they called me the nerd and the gal who knew everything.
Then later I became the person I was at home. People started to call me "cool" and I nowadays say what I want and do what I want but trying not to hurt anyone. I try to be myself even though I am considered "strange" quite often.
Now I am in a new school. I have been here for soon 3 weeks. Came into a nerdclass...
So well, I have kept my old friends which are about 4 real friends and the other people that I talk to.
The world "popular" can mean many different things. Right now I am trying to lie low keepin peace with the teachers in my new school.

 

In all the schools I´ve been popularity meant:

- Being shalow
- Walking over the weaker persons to hide your
own insecurity
- Trie to look cool
- smoking
- Talk in a ****** language, they even don´t
understand because they´re to dumb

So I hate being popular

Once, when I was in fourth, a fat nerd tried to be cool and hit me in the face.
I grabbed his neck and lifted his fat *** of the ground until his face turned purple.

After that, no-one ever, ever tried to bully me. The popular ****** even were nice to me and tried to make me bullie a first-grader.
I told to "**** off" since I won´t lower myself to their status

BTW, Gopher, That Poem/Thing was pretty damn good

[Made everything starry or else Tal will get ******, read angry )

[ September 09, 2002, 16:28: Message edited by: Morgoth ]

 

From the posts here I somehow get the feeling that "popular" people really aren't all that popular...?

 

LOL pretty wise words. Gee that gets me thinking. There's always the big group of sad fu**s who pick on everyone who seems a bit geekish. Now in most schools there are a hell of a lot of geeks (like me for example) So if all these people hate these 'popular' asses then that means they're pretty damn unpopular...

[ September 09, 2002, 17:29: Message edited by: Z-Layrex ]

 

Consider this topic done and dusted!
I'm glad you see the big picture Z.

 

Where I live, going to church 2 times a sunday isn't cool. Nor is writing poems. I don't snog a girl every weekend, but still I'm accepted. I don't care what people think of my clothes, but I do care for other people and that makes you popular.
Being popular isn't wrong. Always wanting to be the best, that's wrong.
It's our wits that makes us men, not our muscles, clothes or shouting.

Being popular is not something to be proud of, but more a reward of your reliability/wit/care.

Being popular is okay, doing popular as bad bad karma!

 

I was never bullied and I was never popular. I was, I am, like one of those people you never notice. Until the point someone needs me for something.

Anyway, I don't have many friends, just a few. I have lots and lots of people I know, um, no, I ment people that know me. When they need me. And then, based on if they are popular or not, bad or not, bullying type or not, I react by rejecting or not. You see, I'm aware of my capabilities and thus I have a certain right to give it only to those I like and not to those I don't like.

Now, what was that about being popular? I don't deal with popular people, sorry. I need general thoughts from my friends, not just narcissistic selfplacing on a throne without any background.

And don't get me wrong here, if someone did something awsome constructive for someone or something that deserves being popular, well, that kind of popularity I do respect. Unless that awsome thing is aimed against humanity.

 

I don't know if i'm popular. Accepted might be better. I was acepted during my last years in school. But that depended on my own sight on what i wanted to be. I want to be myself.
And after that...people with a neurosis on helping, like i am ,are accepted by most of the people.
And as a little local politician: "I've seen you picture today in the newspaper", popularity is no fun at all.
Sometimes i think they will send me out of the city, tarred and feathered. This happened last in Juli. But noone did read my article in the newspaper, they where all on vacation.