Problems

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Problems with my fiancee, though not ones that someone would expect. Shes loosing her friends, all of them. Part of it is my fault, though only a small part. Over the summer she couldnt do anything with her firends..so they grew distant, now so much ---- is happening that its ripping her apart, and, its killing me to watch, and not be able to do a damned thing.

nothing in this is asking for advice. If you wish to give some as to something that would help to keep me from feeling this way, or something I could maybe say to her than might help her not feel that way, I wont ignore it. This is purely something I had to say something about, and it seems that there are somepeople who acctually care to help others on this board.

[This message has been edited by DeBhaal Stasion (edited March 18, 2002).]

 

What ever you dodont dwell on it while your with her otherwise you might make her feel like she is responsible, But otherwise just keep telling her how you feel about her and stand by her, words are seldom enough to fix somthing like this

 

:sympathy:

 

I always advice people to talk about problems and not to hide them for that really can kill you. SO you already followed up my regular advice.. for the rest I can only feel sympathy and hope it will be solved somehow......

 

DeBhaal----this is a hard thing to go thru. It has happened to me and it is hard to deal with. The most you can do, is urge her to do things with her friends when she can, and support her as much as possible.

If her friends won't hang with her because she is going thru tuff times, then they may not be the right friends for her anymore.

 

Ive talked to her about it often, and i honestly try not to dwell on it. She is almost too trusting of an individual, sometimes, which is not to say that is a bad thing sometimes. But when they wont hardly even talk to her anymore, and the only one that does still talk to her, i feel is only trying to make things worse. I know there is nothing that i can do other than stay by her as much as possible. But that doesnt stop the feeling of hopelessness when i know it, and try to ignore that, and suddenly realize it all over again.