Thanks BG! Do you believe in online love?

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A year ago, I started to play again BG2, I read somewhere about mods and anything so I searched in google and the fisrt link was SP, entered, started to download files, some of them were more than 1MB so because the connection is too slow I had to find other things to do, so I opened one of the many chat rooms around, met a girl, started to chat almost everyday, mails, pics, phone calls, and then one day love started to show up. One thing you must know first: I am in Argentina, that's South America, she lives in Spain. So one day she decides to visit me, we spend one week together, the love was real, two months ago she came again. Our relationship grow stronger every day, so strong that I feel that my life will not continue here so I started to do all the paper work and decided that I have to move where she lives. Finally, the time has come, my economic situation didn't allow me to take the journey and I had to make sure that I would find one there. Things worked out great, she want me badly to be there, I want badly to be there, because I realized that I love her. So in a few days I will be posting from Spain.
And all started here, at SP, so thank you.
(oh, she's the one who likes play games also, am I lucky?)
Best regards

 

Online socialising of the romantic kind is tightly surrounded by misconceptions. Some people will think it's altogother broken, everyone on the internet is a perverted looney with issues and so on. Others, in turn, will be naive enough to believe whatever they're said and take people's auto-descriptive (edit: cor. typo) stories for real.

Both perspectives are wrong. The internet is as good as any other place - it has its good and bad sides as just about any scenery. For people for who are active on the internet - all sorts of techies, webmasters, adminkin and other geekfolk - it's an attractive option as the people they meet this way are more likely to share at least some of their interests. Well, and for people who believe in matching, there's a huge world of indexed searchable data - age categories, locations, religions, languages spoken, education received, income, areas of interest... whatever. But those people typically have enough knowledge and instinct to avoid falling for bogus chatroom charm, anyway.

People who aren't internet dwellers should, however, be cautious when trying out the new ways of getting lai... dates. And even more so when feelings come into question.

Congrats, Sydax! Hope you live together happily everafter and so on. Don't forget to name your eldest son Charname

[ October 13, 2004, 12:56: Message edited by: chevalier ]

 

Not as good as meeting face-to-face Think of a phone-call, then replace the voice with "always neutral" tone, and you get Internet.

 

I know several people on other boards who have met online, and after a while got together and married. It all depends on how serious you are about the relationship and how much effort you're willing to put in it.

 

Head to head is always better when it comes to contacts, but the internet is as good a place as any other for starting an acquaintance.

 

A heart-warming story.

 

I know several people who have met their long term partners on the Internet so I no longer scoff at the concept. Maybe it will now happen at SP more often. Maybe Deathmage and 8people will finally get together as well. Or maybe they already have and just haven't told us yet.

 

I think not somehow

I think falling in love online is possible...

But me and DM? No. No offense to DM - but no way

There are probably a few couples on SP anyway. IIRC there are some members that have brought their partners on here anyway, but excluding them there are probably some.

Good luck to you Sydax. Hopefully you won't get people making comments about meeting each other online

 

There has?

...

Anyone feeling like making the hectic DSL lines burn?

 

How'd you know?!

That's not what you said LAST night.

I now hold Harbourboy solely responsible for finding me an online girlfriend. Anyways, back to the topic...

Online love is probably quite possible. I've heard several cases of it. Haven't heard anything about people in SP, though, although that would be interesting.

 

Congratulation Sydax for finding that special someone. Any way that you met her doesn't matter, what matters is that you did find her and I hope you all the best for your future romance. It means a lot that you are willing to leave your home to move to her country and be with her. Good luck to you friend.

 

8people and Deathmage sittin' in a tree,
K-I-S-S-I-N-G,
First comes love, then comes marrige,
Then comes lil' mage in a baby carrige.

Have fun in Spain.

 

Yeah, online romance is possible. I have a couple of collegues who started out in a chatroom and ended up in marriage a couple of years later.

Good luck Sydax. And remember, if you visit your mom in Argentina, don't bring your PC games, ok.

 

Congrats Sydax!

I am actually one of those who naively believed at first that on-line dating was the sole domain of the perverted. That was until I actually realised I had a brain and came to the very same conclusions that have previously been posted - that it's fraught with pretty much the same risks as meeting people any other way with the exception that it's easier for the perverted people to hide their true selves on-line.

In fact, I'm just embarking on a journey to find, at the very least, some new friends of the female persuasion, and considering I'm really bad at talking to women face-to-face if I don't know them I'm considering using on-line outlets.

 

somehow that connection just doesnt sound right. deathmage and 8people (eight people?!). unless of course DM is a polygamist, then its all right.

 

I can adjust.

 

The biggest problem with online romance is the physical side. Now you can tell me you don't go for looks etc, and we will all be being so highly elevated etc until the time comes we see something we don't like. People can't really assess their own looks unless they have feedback from other people (and people you meet online are less likely to have had feedback from real people as they spend much time online, so unless they have photos... well, and you always need to know just what the other person looks like), and well... we all have turn-ons and turn-offs. In my case, they hardly make a transparent system, so I simply "have to see it". Splitting it artificially in two - ie separating the personality side from the looks side and putting the latter off for later judgement usually kills it.

[ October 13, 2004, 13:52: Message edited by: chevalier ]

 

Just a couple of simple questions as I have recently begun communicating with someone I met on an online dating service.

1) When asked to "tell me about yourself" what the hell does one respond with??
2) How long should one wait for a reply to a message if one was initially receiving responses every day?