Losing someone.

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I lost my mother 3 years ago and it still hurts. I cried like crazy at her funeral. It sucks, I know, and whatever people say, no matter how well meant it is, it all sounds trite and hopeless. I feel for you, Trillex, I really do.

 

My condolences too Trillex.

But I sense a very strong personality in you, that you don't hide in the corner and wither away with this alone. Instead you posted a thread about your feelings and keep your life rolling. I am proud of you. But of course it is by no means a shame to cry and grief the loss of your father either alone or with friends and family. Processing and acting out your feelings only keep you in touch with your emotions. And without them we are but empty shells. You must be honest with yourself and cry if you feel like it, and smile through the tears when you remember the pleasant moments. Only you knows what is right to do.

Always charish your father's voice. Keep his voice inside your head. Let him live on both in heaven, if there is such a place and inside yourself too. I force myself to remember the voices of my lost family members, so that I always have them with me. And the voices aid me in recalling the pleasant memories of the times we spent together.

[ June 12, 2003, 00:34: Message edited by: Nobleman ]

 

Wise words, made me shed a tear..

 

Trillex.

My condolences.

One thing I remember about my close ones that I have lost is the good that they did for me, that I did for them and the good times we spent together. They seem still alive.

 

My condolences too.

My friend's father died in a car accident just a few years ago, when I heard what happened the doorbell rang, and my friend stood there crying. It marked me for the rest of my life, and I still remember him standing there...