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Taking the staistics you gave as evidence, Aldeth, I suppose this is true. And I'll believe it, after all its quite plausible considering people tend to live to older ages these days. However, I believe that many people simply lack the maturity that is required to maintain a lasting relationship, and that this is not a new thing. Maturity often comes with age, but not neccesarily. And I don't believe people were any more mature in the past. The difference, I believe, is that now the taboo on divorce has been lifted. This, in addition to the (at least American) modern mindset of never compromising what you want, has caused so many marriages to fail: people have a way out, and many are less willing to try to work out priblems than try somewhere else. What I'm trying to say is that in the past people were pretty muched forced or pressured into staying together. There were obviously exceptions, but for the most part once you married, you stayed married. This was good in that it allowed, from time to time, issues to be resolved inside a marriage whereas nowdays such issues would lead to the marriage's downfall. However, this was, overall, a bad thing, because just being prevented from divorcing/leaving your partner does nto guarantee you will learn to love him/her. Now obviously there are many happily married people in the world. But my point is that marriages nowdays fail not because they suffer from some modern plague, but because nowdays we are made aware of their failure because they publicaly end.

 

That is definitely the case around here where all our parents married at 20 whereas all of our generation seem to be marrying at 28.

 

Excellent, I'm young, single, and proactive, and let me tell you, it's a lot more fun than being married, believe

Who said anything about God, or going without?

 

Ah well, each to their own. So long as everyone is happy with the way they are living their lives.

 

I hate to nitpick, but I just can't believe you. Not about having fun, of course; I'm sure you're having plenty of it. But believing that you can tell me that it's better than being married if you never have been would be just plain silly.

 

Oh, I really don't need to be married to know that I like single life a lot more. Here is a few funny story regarding the pitfalls of marriage btw http://www.perkel.com/pbl/married/index.htm http://www.scn.org/~bk269/marriage.html http://health.2theadvocate.com/index.cfm?pt=itemDetail&item_id=11800&site_cat_id=6

 

Oh dear. There sure are some bitter people around, if those articles are anything to go by. We can find people willing to say negative things about anything, if we try. There are people around who even claim that BREATHING is bad for you.

Anyway, as I said, each to their own. I'll keep my married life, and you can have your single life and we'll both be as happy was we think we are.

 

See, I would actually get married, but I'd want atleast 10 wives at any one time.

 

Been there, done that. Let me assure you that both are fun; depends upon what point you are at in your life.

Or a woman who knows how to be ten women. A good wife knows how to be many different women at once; not that men are really any different in this regard.

 

You think men know how to be ten different women? Sounds like a serious case of schizophrenia. (I know what you meant Chandos, but I couldn't resist.)

Look into fringe Mormanism. (Although Gnarf will tell you that official Morman doctrine forbids polygamy, there are several thousand people living in Utah that have kept this practice.) Then again, I think 10 may be considered a high number even for fringe Mormons. I would never want more than one wife - keeping one woman happy is enough work the way it is.

 

Chandos, maybe that's my problem. I never know how many men I'm being. Aparently the number can get pretty high, my gf frequently looks at me like I'm a loon, and she's a psych major.

I think there are a lot more happy marriages out there than most people think. The problem is that tales are rarely interesting if they center on marriages that are happy and stable. People like to hear yarns about conflict and suffering.

 

That's right AFI. My personal take is that I am havign enough trouble finding a first wife withlout having to find multiple wives. That and if plural marriage was still in play, there would be a more single men than single women as opposed to the other way around...

And that may be why religious ethics are seen as boring--because within the community, the objective is to reduce such conflict...

 

Smart move. That's what I always found so strange about multiple wives. Finding and keeping a wife happy is a time-intensive procedure. I find it almost unbelievable that you can have one wife, and still find time to find other wives. There's still only 24 hours in a day, and between work and coming home to spend time with your first wife, where do you have time to look for a second? Of course some people had more than two, but I would think that the complicating factors would grow exponentially the more wives you added. Plus, I've never known two adult women who could live together in the same house without a lot of tension. It's just not a good idea any way you look at it.