Random Relationship Babbling Thread (alias Relationship Rant Thread #2)

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@Iku-Turso: Yes, that's how I like it as well. When someone asks a girl on a date, it's almost like "Good morning, citizen. Will you go to the cinema with me, snuggle during and make out after the film?" It's not very polite to make such requests and it I find it cheap of people to agree. Besides, I don't even think it's wrong for a "taken" person to go to a dance or something with another "taken" person, I just dislike the way people get around to certain things or the way they share them with more than one person at a time.

As for DoTW's girlfriend, I think she's blaming herself and shifting it on him to escape the blame.

 

Heh, no I won't play her ****ing game. And Chev, that would be ex-girlfriend.

I DID revoked her status, both as gf and friend. I don't listen to crappy excuses and I told her explicitly that I was seriously disappointed by her lack of honesty. To think I known her for 18 years, and never saw THAT coming. Regardless, I had little faith in long-distance and it seems I was proven right. At any rate, freedom is sweet. I truly loved and liked that girl, but whatever I felt towards her did a 360. And count on me to stop contacting her. I explicitly told her so. I topped up airtime in my phone, and got a new phone number (by ricochet, a new email address) in the process. That's what makes Rogers great.

Chalk one more on the board of crappy relationships that soured, I guess.

 

I would do the same thing. Trust and respect are fundamental in a relationship.

 

My thoughts exactly. She disrespected me and killed whatever trust I had. Now she's paid the price, though I think she cares not. She's in love, now.

 

Well, I wouldn't blame her so much for just falling for someone else... guess that's more of a weakness (either in falling for him so easily or for having fallen for you easily and shallowly before) than fault. That's not so bad as dishonesty. Whether fault or weakness, it's not something to enjoy in your friends. She probably panicked and I suppose she still hasn't finished the age of raging hormones and instability, so don't be too hard on her. But yeah, certain things are done for.

 

I talked with the girl today, and she told me that she felt the same way about me, and we have decided to start dating, I guess (I find the term 'dating' kind of stereotypical and annoying, but I'm just saying we are together, or whatever you young'ns call it these days ). So, happy news from the east coast (America's east coast, at least).

 

Best of luck, Saber.

I had to dump mine today, and it wasn't exactly a good day. Seems you're lucky when I'm unlucky and the opposite.

 

I'm sorry man

We do seem to be on opposite ends of the love stick, aye. But hey, look on the brightside: Now there's one less dishonest person in your life. Its better to get them out of your life now then to wait until, say, it was true/absolute love, when there is no turning back...

I suggest you eat really hot salsa, drink coke zero to wash the burning away, and play kickass video games for multiple hours.

 

Screw that bitch. Life goes on as it did before she came into my life. I can see a fair stretch of singledom ahead, but I care not. That how it's always been. I need a drink.

[ January 31, 2006, 05:15: Message edited by: Disciple of The Watch ]

 

Better off single than in a toxic relationship or wasting time on something you think is a relationship but objectively is a sham.

 

Aye, words of wisdom again. Take it from me, wasting time, no matter how good time it might seem to be, on a sham is pointless.

Having broken up with my gf about a month and a half ago I'm seeing that relationship from a different angle. It wasn't that great in the first place. The thing probably started from us both needing some serious support, and we gave each other that, but maybe we never really loved each other. We actually never had that romantic 'falling in love' - phase or it was way too short, which should've been a dead giveaway not to start the whole thing in the first place.

Now that that relationship's over, I feel great! Whatever regrets I had are gone. Sure I've missed her from time to time. But amazingly not that much. And I think I'm better off without her, since life's looking really good right now! Wonder if she was holding me back and making me feel down for all these years...well you'll never know, and which ever way it was, it's now over. Should I keep a break-up party?

 

I say go for it. Break up parties sound good to me, especially if there's beer, gaming, and lots of food. America today, and I imagine the same is true in the rest of the world, too, seems to think that if you aren't in a relationship, you are either bitter, unlovable, or just plain stupid, as if relationships were the only sensible way to go. Live life on your own for a while. If you happen to meet a nice, interesting girl along the way, let whatever happen that happens, but don't go looking for trouble.
Ok, now I feel real bad, 'cause I'm in what is now a 4-year relationship that is fast on the way to marriage and I just talked a lot about not dating and all, but let me qualify. This great relationship I'm in came about because I was just being me, on my own, and I smacked right into her, being her self, on her own, and we were friends before we started dating. This is how good, long term relationships usually start, not a night of picking girls up in a bar, or chat room, or whatever.

 

Yes, I recommend white wine.

 

Red wine's better

I need some advice. The bf is currently in a major funk and is not coming out of it. It's about school and the general state of the human race. I know where he's coming from because 5 years ago, I was in that same state, but I don't know how to help him, or even if I can.

Any suggestions?

 

Laiwethel - what is a 'major funk'? Isn't "funkiness" a good thing? You make it sound bad.

 

Funk = depression.

 

He may need help in the form of presence and a hug, but he might as well need to solve it totally on his own as is often the case with people with depression. Perhaps he could use help with managing his daily affairs, that and some support. You may be able to get him to open up if you insist strongly enough to make it work but no so strongly as to make him feel attacked... I think. But they often lock up and say nothing.

You could get him to go to a specialist if it's serious enough and he doesn't seem to be able to work it out on his own. But sometimes specialist can give people the feeling that their matters are safe being taken care of by someone else, so they don't have to take a grip of themselves.

 

Tell him that he has no control over 'the state of the world' so there's no point getting upset over it. Help him focus on the things that he is good at and can get a sense of achievement, rather than helplessness, from.

 

Break up party? Ironic because I'm having one saturday. Screw wine, it's spirits and Mary-Jane all along for me. If you fellas weren't so damn far away, I'd invite nearly ya all.

And Chev is right, he might need to solve it all by himself. That is what I did when I had my manic-depression. It scrapped my relationship with my ex because she couldn't understand I wanted to get through that alone.

 

My, my heart..... It... It bleeds.... Owww.....

My best bud in the whole wide world called with some bad news... A f** by the name of Kyle has dumped his GF to ask the one and only person of my affection to prom...... Not only that, she doesn't like him.... OR ME (heh, f****** figures....) And even if we DID go it would be awkward as hell because she doesn't.... As it prolly will be if she goes with him..... I don't know what to think, sorry if this post doesn't make sense i'm still comprehending what my friend said.... He says I should just forget her because she likes nobody and will never like anybody (which is prolly true) but I was so worked up and hopeful that what I wanted would come true and we would go and all that.... As I have learned ever so harshly all my life, hope is THE WORST backstabber in all the world.... It's even better at sneak attacks than me and batman working together... and that is saying a lot. I guess he basically has a claim to her now and any action taken by me will result in huge her friendage going to war with me.... I'm going to talk to her best friend (against mine's wishes) about what the hell is going on, but I expect the worst because that's what always happens to me... Now prom is prolly going to be a very lonely night with just me and my baby-- the computer.

I don't wanna believe she doesn't like me, its just what I've heard from my friend and I want another source, but I fear just pushing it will make the heartbreak even worse... But I must know. I can't believe it, I don't want to. But that's EXACTLY the attitude that caused my one and only other major ripping of it out of my chest, getting it stomped and torn to pieces and then fed to a goldfish (who then later died because the heart was so utterly destroyed and blackened and bitter)

What do I do now?? Continue pursuing and ask her friend???!! Forget her after all those months of adoration?! Look for another girl to go to prom with which will be terrible cuz the whole time I will wish it was the other girl and then see her at the dance with another guy and go ballistic?? Go alone and try to rogue other peoples dates off them because I'm so depressed? (I would never do that even to my worst enemy because it's been done to me) Try to rogue her off of him? (risky with .00001 percent chance of success) Stay at home and play comp so that later in life I can look back at my life and be full of regret?!

Jeebus I sound like an idiot rambling on about this on the internet of all places.... Why do I use ellipses so much.... and parenthesis.... why why why....?? I know I sound stupid and this post prolly has tons of flaws in grammar and sentence structure that will mean different things than what I'm saying but bear with me... don't be too harsh in pointing out my idiocy too please....

*sobs and ponders*