Relationship Rant Thread #5

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Damn right! When you feel lonely it's easy to only remember the good times.

 

Haha, yeah, I do. I was joking about passing the booty this way, I just can't pass up opportunities to make comments like that. If, in real life, you actually set me up with those you turned down, I would turn them down as well because I am very serious about my girlfriend. I despise cheating on significant others... it appalls me.

 

Alright, all our plans ended up getting canceled since she had a club meeting the next day, but its fine. Saw her today at a football game at my university (she works concessions... gets me free food ) and we're gonna hang out soon again. It's good right now...

 

Trying to build a relationship with a cheater is like building a skyscraper on sand - sure, you might get it as high as the Empire State Building... but it's only a matter of time until it all comes crashing down on you.

 

That is a pretty good metaphor DotW.

But yeah, why the hell would someone cheat on his or her significant other? Just break up with them and save everyone a lot of pain!

 

Today was a good day. I dropped by the restaurant she works at for lunch (as is customary on Tuesdays now) and so we chatted a little bit there. Later we each had nothing to do so we hung out in my dorm room for an hour or so until she had to go... And later we are eating together as well (with another friend).

All in all, things couldn't be going better, but I wish I knew how she viewed both me and the other friend we have.

 

I can double post after 24 hours right?...

Ok, things aren't as good as could be hoped for . She IS dating the other guy, and that about sums it. Apparently he's been making her mad though so she was venting to me a lot while we hung out today. Then at one point she said:

"You are being a better boyfriend than he is." (thats how I found out, haha)... And I was like
"No... that's not good... all the hassle without any of the perks."

She took it well... Now it's kinda a moral dilemma, do I hope it doesn't work out at my friends expense so I have a chance. Normally I'd say that is a no, but I think he knew my feelings for her before he started... bleh.

 

Just stay in the picture mate, and be a good shoulder to cry on.

 

Not so good. Personally, I think Beren is likely right here.

Oh so true.

 

I would like to, but unfortunately as past experience turns out I can't just "look somewhere else." I wish this wasn't the case, but that's just how I work for better of for worse. I've tried before with other lasses, but something feels wrong about going after different girl when you like another more. Oh well... I'll see the disappointment to the end!

 

Bah, I lock woman out of my life and somehow, someway, one of them manages to get under my skin. Then, to make things even more effed up, she's my damn coworker. Oh yeah, not to mention involved.



The smartest move would be doing absolutely nothing. And this is exactly what I intend to do.

 

No, understand perfectly, your advice is what I tend to give my friends in the same situation. You can't just tie yourself to one person for better or for worse, you still have to keep your eyes open.

And way to go DotW... taken chick magnet strikes again! Really though, it'd be nice for one of these girls to finally be single for you. Best of luck with however you go about this.

 

She's been involved with someone for years as far as I know. Then there's this... tension between the two of us. I can't tell if she plain dislikes me, just doesen't give a damn or likes me, and when you're as good as me when it comes to reading people, that pretty much makes me SOL. My bro, unlike me, has a good eye to gauge people, but we're once again butting heads, so I'm on my own.

In short, I ain't doing squat. I took a MUCH needed hiatus from woman because one more bad experience would have caused serious permanant damage. Time is the essence here - I need time to work my issues with woman, which in return gives more time to get to know her. From that point, I'll go with the flow - if something happens, then it happens, if not, then *shrugs* no big deal.

 

That might be because you see it as either her or someone else. When you're after someone, yes, you can't chase other people at the same time or it feels weird. Or I should rather say vain and oppressive to yourself. But in such cases, you simply need some rest from all of it.

 

This is getting increasingly uncomfortable... in a literal sense. We've been spending a lot of time together and it's at the point that when we are apart my mind can't seem to help but wonder over to her. This is not good, especially because with so much free time as I have now (low-level classes, no job) it mean that's a lot of time for mind wandering.

Gah! It's torture

 

Just avoid the best friends thing.
"You're a nice guy, but..."

It's even got a Wiki article on it. Even someone such as I have felt and seen people suffer from the Best Friend Syndrome.

 

I believe I have the answer I was seeking - I think she DOES like me. She helped me tie up all the paperwork for my daily report while I was busy tending to another end-of-shift duty, and used one of my random comments to ask me about something I like. Inquiring about my tastes tells me she shows interest in knowing me better. No cause for celebration yet, but I do believe things are headed on the right track.

And yes, she's definitively gotten under my skin. Try as hard as I might, I can't get her out of my head. Base advice hasn't changed - just get to know her better and do nothing until (if ever) the time is right.

 

Hiatus, hiatus, where art thou?