Relationship Rant thread

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Huh? That's not how my friendships work. I don't even think about whether I am "better" than them or not.

Screwed up what?

 

@Lord Garak: Just tell her what you think and why you think that. That's all you can do, but that's enough.

 

The Thing with The Guy - I have a great fear that I blurted out something that will make him think very bad things about me.

 

I dont think you can go wrong if you were honest and if he gives up then he aint worth your time...

 

I'd like to give more positive advice, but without knowing what you said Ara. can't really tell.

 

@ Ara I agreea with Bhaal, if he gives up then he aint worth your time.

@Chev Thanks for letting me know all that, I would tell her what's on my mind but I tend to be as subtle and kind as a nuke when I'm talking about someone I really don't like for various reasons (in this case, the moron). And I don't her mad at me, even though I wonder if she realises that even if the whole class gives her the cold shoulder I'll still be nice.
PS:You're a fountain of wisdom.

 

@Eng; I toöld him that I kissed a girl on a dare, and that I spent a night at a male friend's place, I am afraid that he misunderstood the decond to be more than me snagging a sympathetic spot on the couch, and the first... well, not sure about that one. *headdesk*

 

@Lord Garak: Sometimes a friend has to tell the truth, even knowing he's going to get a really cold shoulder. If not a friend, who will? My best buddy is gentle as ****. When I screw up, he sums it up, "chev, you gave ass." The only time he's got punched in the face has not been for that.

@Ara: Most guys wouldn't mind the former. Many would mind the latter, although I'm not sure how many. No matter if it looks immediately good for you or not, the guy is going to learn many things from your past yet, so probably better now than later. There's a reason why I exaggerate my bad sides and not my good sides when introducing myself to a new girl...

 

Ah. for the first, as Chev said, most guys definitely wouldn't mind. I certainly wouldn't and in fact have been the one who suggested the same dare to other friends

I agree with this. Don't worry about it Ara.

Although I myself don't practice the latter half of Chev's statement. Always try to put your best foot forward I say

 

I have a feeling I'm being played for the fool by my 3-year-old's mother.

Going back to what I think I said when I first returned recently about things going really well between us, she says she still loves me but her actions don't necessarily reflect that nor do some of her responses.

 

Aldazar, it looks a bit like she needs you more than she loves... Or maybe she loves but isn't in love. Or maybe she loves but is tired with the whole thing. Or, maybe, as you say yourself, you're being played for the fool. Rarely is such a hunch wrong.

Recycled relationships we call hash-ups in Poland. Pragmatically speaking, there's a reason why the two of you aren't together anymore. Also pragmatically speaking, the two of you hooked up for some reason and know each other quite a lot already, so there is some initial capital. Generally, I have a rule never to try anything with a woman who has dumped me once. This said, I'm still blissfully happy from meeting a certain lady on whom I used to have a crush a year before going to university. Looking back in time, from the perspective of some acquired wisdom, I'm quite sure she had one on me, too, although it had never been pronounced. On either side. I suppose it might have died by now for her, but what's going to be is going to be.

[ July 29, 2005, 20:45: Message edited by: chevalier ]

 

Don't you just hate when you got a crush on a girl and don't tell and at the same time she's got a crush on you and doesn't tell you and you find out about a couple of years later.

 

Depends. I would probably hate the fact such a great chance had been lost, if it were. But the relief of finally finding out would be more important than "losing" a couple of years. I suppose, in reality, it would be gaining rather than losing, as a couple of years is a great test for such things.

 

@chev: the 'problem' in this situation is that I'm still deeply in love with her (at least I think I am, I'm still not sure whether or not I trust my own feelings or even which part of my body is actually talking) and it's like no other woman could ever possibly mean as much to me as she does. And unfortunately she knows it.

@Lord Garak: I've been there myself, some 8 years ago I had a huge crush on a very attractive, slightly younger woman and only found out about 2 years ago that she had a crush on me as well...very frustrating.

 

*grumble*

Wtf is me being "a handful" supposed to mean? If he doesn't like the way I look, he could bloody well say it directly without word games....

 

@ Lord Garak & Aldazar

Does it make a difference? Shy guys never meet, so would had it made any difference if you had known? If the female can't take the initiative and show that she is interested, then why bother? If a male takes the risk, he quite likely only ends up to be the arse of some silly joke...

Beats me. My only guess that he might want to take a handful of your rear, but guess that can't be it if you don't look so good...

 

You just insulted her.

 

Shhh... no need for such emotions. Come on, it's just life.

@Aldazar: Letting go of that crush was one of the biggest mistake I've made, it only took time to show. To be honest, it looks like the supposed tiny little crush has survived the test of time. Surprise... or not. I should have been more mindful. As for your girl... if she in any way uses to her advantage the knowledge that she means so much to you, then she probably means to you much more than she really should. Tough lesson, I know, haven't learnt it myself yet.

 

It means you're too much woman for him to handle, honey. You go, girl!

 

Sorry, just pointing out her lack of confidence. Bad pun intended. Anger teaches patience, no?

/Me thinks she just translated "kourallinen" badly, which originally could be used in a phrase when... Well, when you fondle you-know-what in the lower backside of you-know-who. I was just guessing that the fellow had been giving some half-concealed suggestions and since you-know-who did not get the drift, she rejected him.

Speculation is so much fun.