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1) Choose a day at random from the last week and list all the main things you did. That will tell them a lot about what you do, what you like, and how you think.

2) Tough one. Her PC might be broken or she might be busy at work etc.

 

Sydax, is she an avid SPer? And if so, who is she?

 

Wow! This is old...
Nope, she's not from here, just me, her name is Carolina and I found her (or she found me) in just a particular day when I was downloading a mod from here and while I was waiting for the download to end I got in one chat room, she on the other hand, never been in a chat room neither, but that particular day she went with a friend to teach her how to use internet so while she waited for her, she did the same thing I did: get into a chat room, so we met.

 

*hugs Sydax*

Congrats! You are defoinitely onre lucky guy, to have something like that to happen to you.

Sort of reminds me of my second cousin's half-brother, who moved from FInland to Canada to his online gf

In more general terms, I like to think that online dating is a rather good thing; after all, online it's easier for shy people to come out of their shells and all that jazz. Of course, I am not discounting the importance of face-to-face meetings; I am sure that had not my... err... there really are no wors to describe the relationship... and I gotten along face-to-face with "personal chemstry" as it is, our relationship most definitely would not have gone where it went.

(And on that note, had another online thing gone differently, I am sure that the perosnal chemistry might've led to bloodshed.... hindsight and all that )

 

@Aldazar:

1. Lines like "tell me about yourself" mean that the person is trying to shift the burden on you. It's not necessarily bad - perhaps she's having a bad day or maybe she's shy... or maybe she actually did mean to ask you to tell her about yourself and did NOT mean it to be a cheap pick up line. Note: it's almost always wrong for people who started the conversation, especially if they started it a couple of lines ago. As for answer, you could turn it into a joke. Or ask her what specifically she would like to hear. If it's the very first conversation and she's acting like sort of a host, she probably wants a general summary, like: "My name is Jon. I am a doctor's assistant at the local morgue and I'm a very lively person, if you know what I mean."

2. Three days is considered the bottom line when someone isn't answering despite having means of answering. Delay above 3 days is rude. Much like with returning phone calls, actually. One day shouldn't worry you, but if it's two or more, you probably don't mean as much to her as you would like to. There are cyber cafes, there are friends with internet connection, employers and educators have it... there's always a way of dropping a line if someone's going to go offline for a couple of days. Note: people can still fall ill for a week or some such.

@Sydax: Congrats It's good that there's such a nice example to prove that falling in love online is possible. It always requires some special circumstances and is way different from the standard chat talk, but it's definitely there. God bless you and your girl.

[ October 13, 2004, 13:25: Message edited by: chevalier ]

 

@ Deathmage:

How about chev?

 

hehe hilarious

Even better hehe

@Sydax
Congratulations man, don't stop posting though, or SP is gonna lose the only "old" dude with good taste in music I'd suggest playing Candleburn to celebrate but I think it sets the wrong kind of mood haha

 

Wow, didn't think there'd actually be this much activity on the thread after my 'resurrecting' it.

Anyway, with the three-day guideline chev mentioned, would it be considered bad in anyway if I were to message her again at that point?

 

No... I don't think so. If you wait until the third day and stay away from asking too many and/or too personal questions, it won't be impolite. But from there on, you'll have to give up on messaging until she replies. Don't worry, you lose nothing in either case: if two messages don't merit a reply, a third won't do the job, except maybe provoking her to ditch you in a very direct way; if she can't reply the two right now but would if could, she will reply the two when she can, even without a third.

 

I agree with Chev; After all, it is always possible - if improbable - that she did not receive your message for some reason.

After all, technology is fallible.

 

Well, according to the display in my profile, she has read the last message I sent.

Either way, I'll probably wait until Monday now to message her again, would asking if I said something wrong in my last post seem too...I don't know, insecure is probably the word I'm looking for, maybe creepy...or should I just stick to asking how her weekend was?

 

Sorry to be l'enfant terrible, but if she's from SP, she could read your current post asking for suggestions on the meaning of her current behaviour... I guess letting her read it defeats the purpose of your posting it.

Perhaps she's thinking on the reply, or maybe she haven't had the time to type it down yet. If you had said something wrong, I think she would have replied you in a short and concise way... Don't worry... yet.

If you do message her, keep it neutral with only a bit of some benevolent interest more personal in nature. Make it her job to guess what the interest is. Come on, guys don't really talk to girls for new friendship, right? She most probably knows this. If you show too much interest, she can think it's not worth it, like you're desperate or easy to get or some such.

If you genuinely care about her, be honest and open (just try not to say all things at once or you'll scare her away). But the sooner you realise you're in for some big pain the better for you.

 

Well chev, I seriously doubt she comes to SP, but I guess I cane never be sure unless I ask her.
Anyway, possible intended sarcasm with the friendship comment notwithstanding, at the moment I'm just hoping that some kind of relatioship comes of it even if it is just friendship because I'm mighty short on friends right now, I can probably count all my friends on 2 fingers. And believe me when I say that I know I'm probably setting myself up for big-time pain in the long run, but there's no way it could be anywhere near as bad as what I've had to deal with already. (see recent post in RB for an example)

 

Oh well, don't reconcile with just friends role... she might try putting you there out of shyness. Make sure you've shown her you don't see her as just a friend and let her choose... The worst you risk is getting dumped and it's part of male fate, hehe. Well, better to get dumped than to miss a good girl.

[ October 15, 2004, 06:09: Message edited by: chevalier ]

 

It's not that I'm reconciling myself to the 'just friends' role as such, it's more that if that's what ends up happening, then I'm okay with that but if she returns my interest in being more, then great.

Anyway, I just sent her a message asking how her weekend went and telling her that mine went pretty well. IF I even get a response, it probably won't get to my account before tonight.

Damn I need a home PC with Internet access.