The good old days...

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*ahem* reread! I said there is "more to love than sex". By implication this means that sex must be a part of love. I just don't happen to think it's the most important part.

 

Personally I think platonic love can exist as well, but that's a different discussion altogether.

As someone said early in this thread, compare this to the taliban. We could see a trend here, as society develops, women's rights get better, just like slavery disappears when a country is prosperous enough. Now, could the taliban opression of women be explained by their lack of development? And if so, can this development be improved by means of bombs?

 

I'm really surprised how un-controversial that column was with this group. I thought more of the women would be offended. Not me though! I try to treat my mate the way that article describes, but he treats me the same way so it all balances out.

I have found that setting up "roles" in a relationship for doing various chores is very relaxing. I'm sure glad women don't have to do *all* the chores anymore but in our relationship we definitely have "his chores" and "her chores", which means we never have to argue about whose "turn" it is to do something. That's very relaxing. He never has to buy groceries or cook a meal, and he doesn't have to feel guilty about that because it's my job, not his. And I can put my feet up with a drink and a book after supper while he cleans up- because that's his job. Paradise!

I disagree though with the idea that sex is not the most important part of marriage. If you love someone but they aren't #1 to you in the sex appeal department, just be buddies. Otherwise you'll start looking at people you find sexier than your spouse. So don't marry someone unless he/she can melt your teeth- it's not "meant to be". That's not to say that friendship and love aren't also important- but sex is the one part of a marriage you can't compromise on.

 

*sigh* This gives a new meaning to the expression from robot wars; "house robot". What happended to passion and romance? Fantasy and adventure? ok. Ok. I live a life far from this I guess.

 

What I'm trying to say is sex is the outward, physical expression of an inward emotion. Without that inner feeling for the individual, sex becomes a form of recreation. Generally, when a married couple's sex life dwindles, it's because the love between them has already been disappearing, rather than the other way around.

To equate physical attraction with real love is completely wrongheaded IMNSHO.